….It’s a space I’m looking at closely. The philosophical construct of the technology that powers it is beautiful. But what has gotten lost in the noise that surrounds NFTs is a close examination of its real potential. I’m tinkering with it. Have been talking to people. And will upload an NFT soon. At work on it. More later.
How I won the Pulitzer and other tales
After much bickering with friends on a WhatsApp group over the inflammatory content of a forwarded message that seemed clearly manipulated, I exited the battle. It was clear they wouldn’t consider any evidence I presented if it stood in the way of the alternative “facts” they subscribed to. The version of events presented in the forward aligned with an ideology and came from a source that they considered infallible. Their minds had been manipulated. I realised I would need an altogether different toolkit to prove this to them.
A war had to be waged. But how was it to be won? It occurred to me that few stories carry greater credibility than those that appear in a newspaper. That settled it.
It took 10 minutes to look up an online tool that allowed me to create a news clipping. Another 10 minutes to compose a story that insinuated it had appeared in The New York Times. The final output stated that I’d been shortlisted for the Pulitzer Prize in journalism.
I sent it out on the WhatsApp group with the comment: “Feeling overwhelmed. Thank you for your support guys over the years. Love you all!”
A stunned silence greeted my post. This was going to plan. I was messing with their heads. Eventually, the first message came in. Grudgingly. “Boss! You’ve made us proud!”
“Thanks man! Will call. Fielding too many calls right now and juggling work.” I responded.
A deluge of congratulatory messages from members of the group followed.
What I hadn’t anticipated was how quickly this would backfire as well. Happy with the clip I’d created, I shared it with my wife, daughter and some close friends who understand the news business. I assumed they’d see through it right away. My family knows I try to pull a fast one every once in a while, and if anyone in the news business with a sharp eye looked at it closely, they’d spot it as a fake. But in this case, almost no one did.
As I stepped out of my room a little later, a teary-eyed wife hugged me tight and the older daughter looked all proud of her dad. She couldn’t wait to show off to her friends! Not just that, they’d shared it over WhatsApp with others in the family. I could see messages from friends trickling in on my phone now. They desperately wanted me to get on a call to begin celebrating.
It broke my heart to begin telling everyone it was a fake. And hard to see those around me struggle to hide their disappointment — at having nothing to celebrate, at having been so wrong, and now feeling foolish. That’s when it hit me. People see and hear what they want to see and hear not just because they’re stubborn or incapable of admitting error. It’s also because it’s so much easier to dig the self in deeper than dig the self out of a hole. As with so many things, take enough turns in the road, and it’s almost impossible to turn back.
Those who craft fake narratives understand this intuitively. That is why, as a thumb rule, I don’t take any narrative on social media platforms at face value, even if they originate in people I know.
Why did friends who are ideologically opposed to me, then, buy into my Pulitzer nominee story? And why have they started to consider my opinions on all things more seriously?
Let me put it this way. Humans have fickle memories, and minds that are easily swayed. The story I crafted didn’t attack their ideology. Instead, it was something they wanted to be a part of. Suddenly, what they could see was a friend they grew up with, not an ideological opponent.
I haven’t bothered to clarify with them that it is a prank. But I will, eventually. When we argue as we often do around ideology, and they decline to consider evidence that does not fit their worldview, this clipping will be deployed to demonstrate how easily minds can be manipulated.
This piece was first published in Hindustan Times. Copyrights vest with HT Media
The Art Instinct
“You were right. I didn’t know what had hit me,” the teenaged daughter mumbled as she opened her eyes way past noon on a Sunday afternoon. I’d been waiting for her to wake up and pass verdict on South of the Border, West of the Sun by Haruki Murakami. I had bet in my head that it would be impossible for her to stop reading once she got started. This was a path I had trod more than 25 years ago and one I was intimately familiar with.
After recommending Night, an account of the holocaust by holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel, I thought she could do with a morally ambiguous love story. Night had been a gut punch for both of us, when we first read it decades apart. I recall feeling numb for days after reading it as a teen.
The book recommendations aren’t an attempt to wean the daughter off her streaming platforms. Nor am I trying to add misery to her already tough life in these strange times. Instead, I am hoping that experiencing these works of literature, among other things, will eventually teach her to question conventional wisdom.
It all began when I stumbled upon a copy of Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky on her bedside table. This copy dated back to my younger days. Whatever could have compelled her to give up binge-watching to invest her time in this, I wondered. “My friend said it’s an amazing book,” she said.
“But what do you think of it?” I countered.
Some hemming, hawing and a pregnant pause later, she admitted that she thought Crime and Punishment terribly boring and impossible to comprehend. We both laughed. I confessed that I had attempted to read it when I was about her age, because a friend had told me the book was a classic. I hadn’t been able to get through it either, but I’d been embarrassed to admit that then. A few attempts to plough through later, I gave up.
Now, critics have it that Crime and Punishment is among the greatest accomplishments in literary history. I’m sure there’s merit to what they say. But like the famed biologist EO Wilson, I’ve come to believe the time invested in the arts must serve a purpose — entertain, inform, transport. When I was as old as my daughter is now, it was writers such as Wiesel, Murakami, the evolutionary theories of Jared Diamond, the intellectual ferocity of Richard Dawkins and the sobriety of J Krishnamurti that engaged, challenged and transformed me most.
Perhaps the times have changed, or perhaps it was always so — that some are better served by looking back while others examine what is now and still others look to the future with wild surmises and extravagant hopes. If it weren’t so, there would be just one genre of literature, and music, and film.
Some are transported by Hariprasad Chaurasia’s flute, others by the compositions of Vivaldi, still others by the poetry of Bob Dylan. I discussed this with my daughter. She nodded her head. I’m unsure if it was in agreement or in silent exasperation that her father should still hold on to the ’70s. Eventually though, she must learn to discard convention and be true to herself. Because there is a difference between trying to challenge and elevate oneself, and just following the herd. Art is not enriching if it does not resonate. If the only reason one sticks with a book or stands before a painting is because popular opinion demands it, well, one might as well spend that time listening to the tunes of Taylor Swift.
First published in Hindustan Times on Sunday. All copyrights vest with HT Media
Navigating the 40s
That I don’t fit the definition of a young man any longer hit home last week, when an innocuous tweet attracted vicious trolls and the invective hurled at me included descriptions that addressed me as Uncle. Sometimes, when you’re called Uncle in India, the line that separates respect from derision can be a thin one.
To place that in perspective, I have become used to friends of my kids addressing me as Uncle; I have nephews and nieces; random people such as harried delivery boys looking for directions in the neighbourhood address me as Uncle too. It is an honorific I use liberally as well. Every parent of a friend is addressed respectfully as Uncle or Aunty. For that matter, anybody who looks old enough and is unrelated must be addressed like this in the Indian scheme of things. That’s how everyone I know was raised — me included.
But this time, as the trolls deployed Uncle against me, their sense of derision sunk in. Because, much like them, I have used the term to signal to strangers that they are old and over the hill. “Nikal na, Uncle!” (Get lost, Uncle!) delivered at the right moment and in the right intonation in Hindi, can be devastating.
But just how did the trolls on Twitter conclude that I am an Uncle? All they could see on my profile was a thumbnail-sized image. It was time to examine myself more closely in the mirror.
t showed a man with a receding hairline who works hard to stay in shape. From being a night owl who could work 15 hours on a trot and then party all night, he has morphed into a teetotaler because he can’t handle the hangovers. And once a while, when he tells the missus he plans to meet up with the “boys”, she smirks. I think I now know why. When he gets back from meeting these buddies from his school days, all the stories he shares are rehashed ones, about pranks played on teachers, first crushes, the early years of struggle, and so on and so forth.
But the mirror insisted I think about the other updates conveniently tucked away in corners of my mind. These include narratives around lifestyle diseases such as hypertension and diabetes, bad marriages and messages of shock still exchanged about a friend’s sudden demise. When you think about it, these meet-ups and the sharing of these stories are actually meant to compel people such as me to acknowledge the passage of time, and to admit that I am a mortal creature in his mid-40s
But I don’t. Why? I suspect this is where the issue lies. Navigating the 40s isn’t easy. I’m not young. But I’m not old either. I’m abandoned. I have finally grown up.
My kids need me and my parents need me. I am in charge and supposed to have all the answers. This is scary. How am I supposed to have all the answers? When did I grow up? But grow up I did.
I am not as brash as I used to be in my 20s or 30s. Nor have I descended into the cantankerousness of many in the generation that raised me and my wife. In her 2018 book, There Are No Grown-Ups, Pamela Druckerman points out that all research has it that in our 40s we digest information more slowly than younger people do and are “worse at remembering facts”.
Having said that, she points to the upsides. “What we lack in processing power we make up for in maturity, insight and experience. We’re better than younger people at grasping the essence of situations, controlling our emotions and resolving conflicts. We’re more skilled at managing money and explaining why things happen. We’re more considerate than younger people. And, crucially for our happiness, we’re less neurotic.”
I couldn’t agree more. That also explains why I didn’t take the bait and put up a spirited fight against the trolls. I may have done that in an earlier avatar. This avatar had other things to do on a Valentine’s Day — such as live better and love better.
This piece was originally published in Hindustan Times on Sunday. All copyrights vest with HT Media.
Ernest Hemmingway: 1954 Nobel Acceptance Speech
Having no facility for speech-making and no command of oratory nor any domination of rhetoric, I wish to thank the administrators of the generosity of Alfred Nobel for this Prize.
No writer who knows the great writers who did not receive the Prize can accept it other than with humility. There is no need to list these writers. Everyone here may make his own list according to his knowledge and his conscience.
It would be impossible for me to ask the Ambassador of my country to read a speech in which a writer said all of the things which are in his heart. Things may not be immediately discernible in what a man writes, and in this sometimes he is fortunate; but eventually they are quite clear and by these and the degree of alchemy that he possesses he will endure or be forgotten.
Writing, at its best, is a lonely life. Organizations for writers palliate the writer’s loneliness but I doubt if they improve his writing. He grows in public stature as he sheds his loneliness and often his work deteriorates. For he does his work alone and if he is a good enough writer he must face eternity, or the lack of it, each day.
For a true writer each book should be a new beginning where he tries again for something that is beyond attainment. He should always try for something that has never been done or that others have tried and failed. Then sometimes, with great luck, he will succeed.
How simple the writing of literature would be if it were only necessary to write in another way what has been well written. It is because we have had such great writers in the past that a writer is driven far out past where he can go, out to where no one can help him.
I have spoken too long for a writer. A writer should write what he has to say and not speak it. Again I thank you.
I dwell in possibilities
Calendars were designed for two reasons: To mark the passage of time, and to remind us to carve out time for self-reflection. As the Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard wrote in his journal, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
I remember being glad at the way my year started. Tuning out the sounds of debauchery, I woke up to the crisp morning air of January 1, 2020. In the adrenaline rush that followed my run, a voice in my head said, “This will be one of the best years of your life.”
The future will arbitrate that.
But even with everything I know now, I know that there is much to be grateful for. And much to regret.
My gratefulness didn’t translate into action, even as images of desperation were beamed into my living room amid the pandemic. I expressed my outrage over devices on all platforms. In hindsight, my outrage reflected my privilege — the privilege of the keyboard warrior. It is another thing altogether to effect change.
How is one to effect change? I remember asking that question of Arun Maira, former chairman of Boston Consulting Group (India) and former member of the Planning Commission. He gently suggested that I begin by listening to voices unlike mine. It took a while for the import of his advice to sink in. My instinct on hearing narratives that are ideologically opposed to my own is to lash out. When I’ve made the attempt to listen, however, I have been granted access to a perspective that I may otherwise not have encountered.
By way of example, there’s an old gentleman whom I chose to stay away from for a long time because I thought him a bigot. Some chance encounters led us on long walks and over time his narrative tumbled out. Born during colonial rule, Partition tore his family apart and compelled him to move to Bombay from Lahore, a city his heart continues to beat for. The animosity he bears to citizens there is an outcome of the scars his body acquired on the journey here.
It was easy to argue with him. Listening to him in silence was difficult. It is an acquired skill.
That I have the mental muscle to implement change is also obvious now. If someone had told me at the start of the year that I would have to work at the pace I now do, barely stepping out of the home yet finding ways to stay engaged with people and on top of things, I would have laughed them out of the room.
And yet I have managed, as have most others. And working from home has taught us to empathise with those in our homes and our lives that we had lost touch with in our race to get from place to place to place.
In the early days, one of the first things I did was quibble about how demotivating it was not to have access to my workplace and privacy. Until I looked at the kids. How traumatic must it be for them to not be at school and on the playgrounds with their friends, I thought. These are the most impressionable years of their lives. If I’d been asked to give up a whole year at school, I would have keeled over in horror. Each year there was precious. But these kids were compelled, and they rose to the challenge.
I next looked at those in my life a generation older. In the busy-ness of life, I hadn’t noticed — or perhaps hadn’t wanted to acknowledge — how much older and more fragile they had become. That was when the full import of the American writer Philip Roth’s words sunk in: “Old age isn’t a battle. Old age is a massacre.”
In each generation — mine, my parents’ and my children’s — I saw reflections of how wonderfully adaptive and resilient we as a species are.
Our minds and our lives had been scaffolded by rules and routine and yet when, overnight, we were forced to reimagine our world — individually and collectively — we did. Forced to wake up daily to the unpredictability and arbitrariness of a pandemic, we found ways to cope. And deep down, we discovered reserves of equanimity. “This too shall pass” is now an article of faith.
So as 2020 draws to a close, I prefer to dwell on how much we have to be grateful for, and hopeful about. Dwell on ways in which we can reach out to one another more effectively to extend help and hope.